Is Divorce really necessary in marriage after a couple of years?

Is divorce really necessary in marriage after a couple of years?

Reading the newspapers every day makes us think that divorce is a common thing. Unfortunately, that’s a fact. The reality that famous actors divorce after a couple of years in the marriage is also a reality in common couples. Couples today follow the trend of divorce as a means of answering their relational problems.

 There are even couples that resort to divorce after 10 or 15 years of marriage just because of personal issues that they have encountered just then. There are even those that files for a divorce just because their relationship doesn’t have any adventure. The things you see in TV that says “irreconcilable difference” has a thousand and one meanings that are attached to it. Unfortunately, this has been exploited and used by so many people and this phrase has been the cause of millions of broken homes in the county today.

So we ask, “Is divorce really necessary in marriage after couple of years?” To answer that question, we take a look at some of the major reasons why couples file divorce.

One of the many reasons sited in the official documents is of course, “irreconcilable difference”. Simply put, couples can’t really get along. In the first year of marriage, the couple gets to enjoy being with each other. But when the reality starts to really sink in, they realize there are things that are not comfortable with their partner. It could be as big as being a drunkard or a really heavy drinker or it could be really small such as the way we snore or eat. That fuels the anger of everyone and eventually it becomes bigger that they can’t control the rage and anger anymore. That’s why people who often end up in divorce are angry with each other because of the things they now hate each other.

Another reason of course is infidelity. Infidelity means that we are not at peace with the one we love and go out and look for another person. Behind the infidelity are so many reasons why they did it. It could be that the sexual relationship with the wife is no longer possible or even “entertaining”. Some choose infidelity because they can’t seem to stand the relationship anymore and they have sought someone else to give them the feeling of being loved. Whatever the reason is, infidelity is definitely one of the major reasons why couple opted to file a divorce.

Other things could come in mind such as abuse or some sort of psychological problem that goes on with the husband.

Judging from the reasons provided, is it really necessary for the couples to divorce?

I have to say yes to the physical and psychological problems of course. However, when you take a look at the reasons such as irreconcilable difference that might not be a very “hard” reason so that you and your husband should go on separate ways.

Sometimes all you need to do is just to talk it out with your better half. Talking is really easy when you do it with your friends but believe me, it will be definitely be harder when it comes to talking with your husband. Although you’ve been good at talking, your husband will definitely be not.

Therapy is also an option. When there are millions of couples planning to go on divorce, there are also millions of marriage counselors who are out there toiling day and night so that couples would stay together until they get old.

Now that we know why people opt for a divorce, but now the question is why do we have to preserve marriage in the first place?

There are so many implications why we have to save marriage. The fact that the family is the simplest form of the society tells us that we have to preserve the family so that we can also preserve our idea of society. The idea of caring for the family means we are also caring for the society. Family is not just rearing kids and watching them until they get old to go out of the house, but family means we care for the society and we need to preserve the values that keeps the family together for the sake of the society.

Which brings us to the next reasons: kids? In divorce processes, no one will be more devastated than the kids. They will be at the cross fire of every thing. The worst part of it is that they will never understand a thing especially when they are very young. The best part we could do about it is to talk to the kids and hope that they will never hate us for it. But even if they don’t, the psychological effect of divorce in the kids is almost devastating. The though of living with one parent is always a bad idea and the kids will want for nothing more than parents taking care of them until they get old to be independent.